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The Guilt Gap: Why Women Struggle to Rest Without Earning It First

The Guilt Gap: Why Women Struggle to Rest Without Earning It First

If rest makes you feel guilty, like you haven’t earned it yet—you’re not alone. So many women struggle to slow down, even when they’re exhausted. In this post, we’re exploring why rest feels so hard, how the pressure to always be productive is taking a toll, and why you’re allowed to rest—without having to prove you deserve it.

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Why It’s So Hard to Say No at Work (and What’s Really Going On Beneath It)

Why It’s So Hard to Say No at Work (and What’s Really Going On Beneath It)

If saying no at work fills you with guilt, anxiety, or fear—you’re not alone. Many people feel pressure to say yes, even when they’re overwhelmed or burnt out. But there’s more going on beneath the surface than just being “too nice” or “not wanting to rock the boat.” In this post, we’ll unpack what’s really behind the struggle to speak up, ask for help, or draw boundaries at work.

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3 Truths About Boundaries That Will Set You Free

3 Truths About Boundaries That Will Set You Free

In my last post, we uncovered three common myths about boundaries that keep many of us stuck in cycles of over-committing and people-pleasing. Now, it’s time to dive into the truth. In this post, I’m sharing 3 powerful truths about boundaries that will help you move past the discomfort, find freedom, and strengthen your relationships. If you’re ready to step into your power and honor your needs, this one’s for you!

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5 Things I Stopped Doing to Protect My Mindset and Improve My Well-Being

5 Things I Stopped Doing to Protect My Mindset and Improve My Well-Being

Discover the 5 things I stopped doing to protect my mindset and improve my well-being. From cutting back on negative influences like the news and true crime to prioritizing sleep and ditching alcohol, this post explores actionable changes that can help you create a more positive and intentional life.

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The Pendulum of Personal Change

The Pendulum of Personal Change

Breaking free from people-pleasing often feels like swinging between extremes—saying yes to everything or no to everyone. In this post, I explore the concept of the pendulum, sharing actionable steps like checking in with yourself, giving yourself permission, letting go of perfection, and embracing the process of progress over perfection. Learn how to navigate personal change and prioritize yourself without guilt.

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Why Do We People-Please? Digging Deeper Into the “Why”

Why Do We People-Please? Digging Deeper Into the “Why”

People-pleasing doesn’t come from nowhere—it’s shaped by our experiences, culture, and even survival instincts. In this post, I dive into the deeper reasons why we say “yes” when we mean “no” and explore how understanding these patterns can help us break free.

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Breaking Free from People-Pleasing: My Journey to Becoming Authentically Me

Breaking Free from People-Pleasing: My Journey to Becoming Authentically Me

For years, I let people-pleasing shape my choices—staying quiet when I wanted to speak up, shelving my dreams to keep the peace, and constantly putting others’ needs before my own. It wasn’t until I understood why I was doing it that I could finally start to break the cycle and reconnect with what I truly wanted.

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